Divorce Adjustment
Children - Teens - Adults
We enter into our newly formed marriage and partnership with the best of intentions. The decision to end a significant relationship can be a difficult and challenging process that leaves everyone depleted, confused and anxious about the future and how to move forward. It is difficult not to perceive divorce as a personal failure. Therapy can assist in working through those feelings, make sense of the end of ones relationship, and obtain a new perspective and healing.
Adjusting After a Divorce
Divorce recovery is a process. Working with a therapist can be particularly helpful for people who are struggling with entering this new phase of their lives. Newly divorced people, whether they initiated the divorce or not, recognize that their lives and the lives of those around them have been profoundly affected by their situation. Worries about financial solvency, employment, or housing may affect them. Stress over losing friends and family members as a result of divorce can be difficult to process. Overcoming guilt as a parent can cause additional feelings of overwhelm. All these issues can be worked out during the recovery process. Together we can find new coping skills based on your individual strengths that are safe, encouraging and empowering during an extremely difficult time.
Children and Divorce
Divorce therapy can be critically important for children experiencing the divorce of parents and care givers. Because parents can become consumed by their own feelings, they may overlook the devastating emotional state their child is in, or even with thoughtful intentions to assist their child will miss important signs of distress. Children may feel guilt, loss, pain, abandonment and confusion during and after a separation. Parents who are aggressive with each other run the risk of creating increased confusion, insecurity and a sense of blame in their child. I can help parents and children work though issues that arise as a result of divorce in order to process the emotions and move forward in a healthy and constructive way.
As an adult adoptee who experienced the divorce and remarriages of both my parents, and step parented two children into adulthood I understand from both a personal and professional perspective that divorce and repositioning of one’s family or origin can run deep into the core of who we think we are, so much so that it can inhibit a realistic and positive sense of self. Through my own personal journey, my academic training and clinical experience I believe strongly in the premise and the promise that the potential for growth and positive change is available to anyone. We, along with our children can overcome early loss, form secure attachment, and thrive in the present to create a new future for our loved ones and ourselves.
I offer a variety of services to meet the needs of children ages five and older, teens, and adults. My style is individualized in an environment that is empathetic, supportive and strengths based. I include a blend of conventional and alternative approaches, drawing upon a variety of styles and techniques to incorporate what would be most helpful for each client.
